Thank you for taking the time to complete our Five Love Languages self test. We appreciate your initiative to take care of your mental health and commend you for your willingness to seek help.
#1: Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited
compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—
hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you
shattered and are not easily forgotten.
#2: Quality Time
For those whose love language is spoken with Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like
full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being
there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes
your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the
failure to listen can be especially hurtful.
#3: Receiving Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love,
thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or
gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever
was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty,
thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.
#4: Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to
ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak
volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness,
broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language
their feelings don’t matter.
#5: Physical Touch
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical
Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and
thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show
excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while
neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.