The Five Love Languages Test (FOR COUPLES)

General Instructions

Read each pair of statements and circle the one that best describes you.

1A. I like to receive notes of affirmation. 1B. I like to be hugged.

2A. I like to spend one-on-one time with a person who is special to me. 2B. I feel loved when someone gives practical help to me.

3A. I like it when people give me gifts. 3B. I like taking long walks with someone who is special to me.

4A. I feel loved when someone does things to help me. 4B. I feel loved when someone touches me.

5A. I feel loved when someone I love or admire puts their arm around me. 5B. I feel loved when I receive a gift from someone I love or admire.

6A. I like to go places with someone I love. 6B. I like to hold hands with someone I love.

7A. Visible symbols of love (gifts) are very important to me. 7B. I feel loved when people affirm me.

8A. I like to sit close to people I enjoy being around. 8B. I like for someone to tell me I am attractive.

9A. I like to sit and talk with someone I love. 9B. I like to receive small, thoughtful gifts from someone I love.

10A. I feel loved when someone helps me with my chores. 10B. I feel loved when someone touches me.

11A. I feel loved when someone I love puts their arm around me. 11B. I feel loved when I receive a gift from someone I love.

12A. I like to go places with someone I love. 12B. I like to hold hands with someone I love.

13A. Visible symbols of love (gifts) are very important to me. 13B. I feel loved when people affirm me.

14A. I like to sit close to people I enjoy being around. 14B. I like for someone to tell me I am attractive.

15A. I like to sit and talk with someone I love. 15B. I like to receive small, thoughtful gifts from someone I love.

16A. I feel loved when someone helps me with my chores. 16B. I feel loved when someone touches me.

17A. I feel loved when someone I love puts their arm around me. 17B. I feel loved when I receive a gift from someone I love.

18A. I like to go places with someone I love. 18B. I like to hold hands with someone I love.

19A. Visible symbols of love (gifts) are very important to me. 19B. I feel loved when people affirm me.

20A. I like to sit close to people I enjoy being around. 20B. I like for someone to tell me I am attractive.

21A. I like to sit and talk with someone I love. 21B. I like to receive small, thoughtful gifts from someone I love.

22A. I feel loved when someone helps me with my chores. 22B. I feel loved when someone touches me.

23A. I feel loved when someone I love puts their arm around me. 23B. I feel loved when I receive a gift from someone I love.

24A. I like to go places with someone I love. 24B. I like to hold hands with someone I love.

25A. Visible symbols of love (gifts) are very important to me. 25B. I feel loved when people affirm me.

26A. I like to sit close to people I enjoy being around. 26B. I like for someone to tell me I am attractive.

27A. I like to sit and talk with someone I love. 27B. I like to receive small, thoughtful gifts from someone I love.

28A. I feel loved when someone helps me with my chores. 28B. I feel loved when someone touches me.

29A. I feel loved when someone I love puts their arm around me. 29B. I feel loved when I receive a gift from someone I love.

30A. I like to go places with someone I love. 30B. I like to hold hands with someone I love.

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Thank you for taking the time to complete our Five Love Languages self test. We appreciate your initiative to take care of your mental health and commend you for your willingness to seek help.

Love Languages Profile

#1: Words of Affirmation

Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important— hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

#2: Quality Time

For those whose love language is spoken with Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

#3: Receiving Gifts

Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

#4: Acts of Service

Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

#5: Physical Touch

This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

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